/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

Trans Mega Thread!

So, let's try something here.

Frequently a trans-related topic comes up in a thread here in /hikki/, and the thread will quickly get derailed by malicious comments or by the diversion in topic just taking over. There is clearly a lot of interest in discussing trans topics, as well as a lot of unwelcome interest in shutting them down. But they do tend to take over threads either way. So, while we figure out how to handle this from a moderation standpoint, I am going to make a trans discussion mega thread here to contain such conversations. This might end up being permanent. If you find that a thread makes you want to discuss a trans-related topic, make a post here instead.

Rules 6 and 7 are strictly enforced in this thread, and violations will result in longer bans. However, uncomfortable questions are also allowed within reason.

Also if a trans topic starts to derail a thread from now on we may delete those posts.

Also Sei is trans. So I might make some posts in here as well.

Update 11/04/2024: When the conversation in the trans thread veers into whether transness is even a thing that exists, that will be considered an attempt at derailment. This thread isn't for you. It is specifically a containment thread for people who want to talk about transness from the starting assumption that the topic itself and the kind of identity it discusses is valid. Please keep that in mind.

From now on, the >>>/rec/ board should generally be used for conversations about recovery from NEETism. This is not a hard rule but you are likely to have a better experience.

Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
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I'm starting college very soon. It's past midnight, so right now, on my birthday, I'm now 18 years old. I still feel 16 though. I know all of you here have jobs, have it 'functioning'. Though I know a lot of you have it very tough. I don't know where to go or who to voice my concerns to. I feel like I'm not in the right place right now to use discord much, I never had much privacy in my life. But at the very least, I can post here, on this board. I can do at least that much, right?

God what do I even say? I keep typing something and removing it after. I'm just so scared. I don't know what to do. If I think to deeply on this, my heart sinks and I start to cry like a wimp. I never really talked to people. It's not even hard irl, I just feel like I don't have the space.

In high school I was always daydreaming of escaping and having complete control over my life by the time I was 18. I could drive around in my own car, work my own job, get my own money, and live for MYSELF. I don't know what to think or what to do anymore. I'm staring at the website of the College I'll be going to in a few months and all the bad memories from high school come flooding back. Nothing bad happened at all in high school. I got by and had friends. But the state I was in. I was falling apart. I remember crying myself to sleep each night. I didn't know what was going to happen in the future. I didn't want to live for someone else. I wanted to live for me. High school ended, and I was at home. Not alone, people still expected stuff of me, but it's fine. I would learn to drive, get a job, get money, and go to college. And just a few months later it's already time. I don't even have a drivers license, only a graduated permit or whatever. Jobs are not easy to get. So I'm just wasting away. All the time I'm just panicking looking at my screen. I don't want life to be like this. For how long does life have to be like this?

Even typing this now, I'm trying not to cry for a second because I don't want anyone to see me. I just want to live for myself only. With no one expecting anything of me. I wish some other kid could take my place and live in my stead, making my family proud and my friends happier. It's not even a desire to not exist. It's the desire to do things that make me happy, and for people to love me for it.

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ive been on here since like 2017 to 2019 where id just browse the boards and sometimes ask about random things since it was like the lowest point of my life, but now i only see posts from years ago? what happened, why is this web so slow now? where are you all? if youve gotten better, good for you ^_^ !

I always hear that people here and there struggle with mental illiness but not me, I am a normal guy with no mental problems whatsoever, I have very normal reactions to people praising me or insulting me. I feel like an outcast due to how normal my life is.

I'm an accountant and I work at my dad's insurance company, I play basketball on the weekends and I have a car and I rent an apartment close to my job until I can afford to buy a house, I do my taxes in time and I have a girlfriend and a dog.

What is wrong with me?

i'm nearing unemployment 2 years, i've tried to upskill with certificates, still barely get any interviews. is it hopeless? thank you

How do you deal with an embarrassing past?
Also, share your embarrassing past. None will beat mine.

Humiliation is hard to overcome because I feel like I'm a trash human being, I'm constantly afraid that people will see my past in the afterlife and see all the humiliating things that happened to me and cringe. I can't be friends with them because I feel unworthy of their friendship.

I was a special ed student at 5 years old, spent all my youth with disabled people, they would lock me up in a padded room with no light when I misbehaved anyhow or didn't listen to the teacher.
I went to normal school after that and the teacher refused to let me use the bathroom, I peed my pants in front of the whole class and was bullied for 3 years over it.
I was bullied in 3 different schools because I had been sheltered and spoiled by my parents who thought they had a "special son".
I was beaten by bullies, isolated, humiliated, and had no friends for years.
I became bitter and angry and joined the chans, which fucked me up even more with gore videos and whatnot.
My parents left me to rot as a NEET for years to take care of my sisters and never paid attention to me.
I know my dad and mom hate me secretly and prefer my two sisters who are neurotypical.
I was an autistic retard, my whole youth. I can't overcome that and become someone I'm not. I will always be a retard.

What causes people to become neets? Is it social anxiety, depression or something else i watched the anime welcome to the nhk and it got me interested into neets i myself am not one but i would like to learn i mean no disrespect i feel bad for neets i just wanna know for morbid curiosity

I will never have a job.

I will never move out of my parents' house.

I will never have sex.

I will never have a girlfriend.

I will never have any friends.

I have a online friend with bpd that I'm afraid is becoming a neet. He has no girlfriend and no life outside his room i really think if he just had a girlfriend or someone to help him out irl so i came up with plan that i will simply transition and become his girlfriend to break him out of his depression and get his life on track.