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From now on, the >>>/rec/ board should generally be used for conversations about recovery from NEETism. This is not a hard rule but you are likely to have a better experience.

Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
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 No.19[Reply][Last 50 Posts]

hi /n/, im curious about the NEETdom and wondering if you could answer some questions?

how long have you been a NEET?
was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?
what do you do all day?
what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?
how often do you get outside, if at all?
do you live independently or with parents?
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>how long have you been a NEET?
Three or so years.

>reason for you becoming a NEET?

Had full-time job for about five and a half years, then the lockdowns happened, then I lost my job.

>what do you do all day?

Youtube, Minecraft, chatting.

>what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?

Nothing IRL, just online chatting (mostly on the fediverse but I pop back to image boards every several months or so)

>how often do you get outside, if at all?

Two or three times a week. Mostly to watch my nieces.

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>how long have you been a NEET?
probably 4 or 5 years now
>was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?
i just never went back to school after moving. no high school education means i'm unable to find a job where i live for the most part. i've tried for a while and no places want me. i guess aside from that i'm just not compatible with other people. i'm happier when i'm alone
>what do you do all day?
i like to draw every day, i'm attempting to learn how to compose music and create video games using rpg maker. i do a lot of cleaning and household activities as well as picking up some exercise recently. i think my daily activities are a lot better than what they used to be when i was always around other people
>what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?
only talk to family offline, but even then i still distance from them. i have a few people i talk to online
>how often do you get outside, if at all?
maybe once a month. i want to start going for walks again, stopped initially because i was unnerved by other people
>do you live independently or with parents?
parent and siblings. though i'm getting a lot older and i'll have to move eventually


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>how long have you been a NEET?
Since the day I dropped out high school near the end 2016, so 7-8 years now.

>was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?

Autism and my upbringing: grew up poor, raised by an unstable and neglectful parent, and having my mind and spirit (and my front teeth) broken by the public school hell. Relentless bullying (which turned into regular assaults and beatings from middle school onward) and alienation throughout my entire adolescence lead to me becoming a dysfunctional non-adult who is isolated, and extremely paranoid about others. I don't believe I would've survived another year of HS. Thoughts of ending it still regularly cross my mind when painful memories from school randomly come back, or whenever I'm reminded of just how far behind I am compared to normal healthy people my age (24) and younger.

>what do you do all day?

I lost interest in my hobbies (namely art and gamedev) and did nothing but sleep all day, and lurk various image boards and dead forums from 2017-2020. September 2021 I upgraded from my old laptop to a decent PC with money I had saved from the stimulus checks, and decided to get back into art, learn and get good at 3D art with Blender, and actually create something instead of wasting away. I squandered much of 2022, binging through various games I had missed out on, and did not make as much progress as I had wished. Starting 2023, I decided to play less games and dedicate my time to practicing and grinding away at 2D and 3D art until it's decent enough to post online, get good at animating, and learn a certain game engine I've been wanting to work with. I Feel like I've made good progress over the past year, and have come to realize that I absolutely need to keep myself busy, as to not ruminate over negative thoughts and memories, or engage in self-destructive behavior.

>what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?

I currently have zero internet friends, no presence on social media, and never had single IRL friend either. My mother and 19 year old brother (who is also a neet and autistic) are usually locked away in their rooms like myself. We only exchange a few words with each other each day, if any. I feel like I'm too broken to connect with anyone anymore, and just not compatible with this society which has devolved into Post too long. Click here to view the full text.


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>how long have you been a NEET?
5-6 years, fuck me
>was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?
It first started when i was going to college then i had a constant panic attack that lasted a month or a couple of weeks. In which i had spent most of my days sleeping then if not having an anxiety attack. It obviously eventually ended in me being kicked out because i wasn't showing up and i just never tried to go back.
>what do you do all day?
I basically waste my life away playing games, I do read once in a while but most things are quite boring or unfun.
>what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?
Not much i don't have any friends anymore both real life and offline, i mostly just talk to my sibling once in a while. It isn't enough though so i mostly just suffer and endure with playing games.
>how often do you get outside, if at all?
I used to go outside a lot but now it is once in a while when i have a bit of money saved.
>do you live independently or with parents?
With family sadly, holy shit i wrote my life story.


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i hope the best for you and that your life can get back on track, especially with the 3d blender art. the world is a cruel place.

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Does anyone feel fundamentally different from other people?

Like there's an insurmountable wall separating you from everyone else that you won't ever be able to overcome. Even with all the riches and a perfect life on the surface there would still be distance.

Ever since I was a kid I was the "weird kid." At home I was an unwanted child. It really just feels like I'm not supposed to exist, but do anyway, as some glitch in the matrix. And all the forces in the universe are desperately trying to bug fix my existence.

I feel very little loyalty towards the world, humanity, or society.


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Well, not really like a matrix error or similar, but since the pandemic I've felt considerably out of touch with people. As someone with Asperger's, I have never been one of many friends or being recognized but even so you don't feel like you are on a different planet. But since then, I now see and feel things very differently than others, to the point that you feel like an island separate from the rest of the lands. I remember as a child having zero ideas of these thoughts and living happily in that stupid but beautiful innocence of the world. Sometimes I feel that social networks have had something to do with it, but I don't even have clear evidence, so I can't say anything about it.

That, and even when you try to talk or minimally socialize, your head doesn't stop thinking about what things you might have said that made you look ridiculous or that you wasted someone's time. Even playing something online you feel totally out of touch with other players.


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Yeah op it’s called autism spectrum disorder



You say that, and maybe in jest, but my issue feels more like an outbound issue where autism is more of an inbound issue. I can read other people just fine, maybe too well, I overthink every little facial twitch. But when it's my turn to act, it's like I'm pretending to be human and doing so very poorly.

I wish I was autistic because then I'd have a group of people I could potentially relate to.


>I overthink every little facial twitch

Someone else that suffer that. Great.


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I was only saying it partially in jest. As a diagnosed autist, I did see a lot of my experience in your post, and this reply actually confirmed my suspicions further. The hyperattentiveness to people’s expressions is actually just as autistic as a lack of attentiveness, as I can attest personally. The ‘pretending to be human’ comment is especially poignant to me, for a while in my childhood I genuinely thought I was an alien who couldn’t assimilate into society because of my alien traits. Op, I’m not a doctor so I can’t and won’t diagnose you here, but I will say about 6 of my peers have been formally diagnosed with it since I introduced the idea to them. It’s worth a look, I think. Lol

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I missed out on everything as a kid. I was always left alone by my peers which fucked me up of any social skills in the long run. I still have trouble holding a conversation. Have you guys had any trouble as a kid? This extreme isolation happened from 3rd to 8th grade which was enough to cripple me possibly my whole life. Or what is left of it anyway. Nearly 6 years of my life consisted of going home from school and back. Every day. Never talk with anyone, not even with family. Just me and my thoughts from a young age

I don't want to be like those other anons who just vent out shit here, so I'll ask the question, have you guys went through something similar that had a damaging effect on you? I still feel bits of loneliness from it.

pic unrelated FLCL just makes me feel like shit
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While I am okay with religious topics being discussed on this site, I ask that you refrain from directly attempting to convert people to your religion here. I am sure I am not the only user this is traumatic for, in fact I had to delete other users' visceral reactions earlier. This is now a rule going forward.

I have more personal thoughts on the matter but I do not want this thread to be further derailed.


Your thread drove me insane although amongst other factors 3 years ago tbh. More other factors really


Pretty much the same.
I spent the majority of my childhood & teenhood in isolation and the little social interaction I made weren't great which made me further retreat.

Kinda surreal to think i'll be 30 in few months. I'm very much the same but I blame myself less now.
I find solace in the idea that it was out of my control and there wasn't much I could do about it.


Was it my fault? Please be truthful.


I became super religious as a result of being isolated. Its been a relief for me and a headache in other ways. I'm still an isolated loner. I've been a social outcast since I switched schools at elementary. I used to be liked in my original school but when we moved everything went wrong and I never recovered. I'm not trying to say religion is a crutch or anything. But I can see why a lot of socially outcast people are drawn too it. Too much existential pain in the world and secular stuff doesn't quite cut it. Being religious only made people reject me more but I just kept to myself. It did make me calmer, less angry, diverted me away from right wing incel shit and less suicidal. Helped me come to terms with my suicidal ideation too. I guess it helped.

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bruh it all sucks ass i had a nervous breakdown because i couldnt find the fucking port for the fan controller on my new computer. im so fucking stressed all the time for no reason, my folks are really nice and all and im fine physically but i just for the life of me cannot be contented. every time i

get something cool or new or if i bake something or stuf like goddamnit i just cant help but worry that im going to break it or do it wrong or make it grimy or idk. like im a privileged mid class white kid but its genuinely crazy how anxious im getting like to the point of tears over shit that most people dont even have the privilege of owning jesus fuck help
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>im genuinely just not a very pleasant person
Yeah, I can see that.


in my experience, spending MORE time by myself once highschool was over actually did wonders for anything I had going on somehow. I finally had the time to actually do what I wanted without having to be as drained and depressed all the time from being forced to do well in something I didn't personally see any benefit from. you just have to keep going, honestly. I actually talk to my own family now, I was extremely anti-social before due to the same sort of anxiety and mental anguish. It's still there but after some years I can somehow just do more things I couldn't now, more often, just more chilled out overall. I hope things get better for you naturally over time too, anon. try to just enjoy the ride


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Can vouch. Getting out of mandatory schooling was probably the best thing to happen to me. As soon as you're allowed to take things at your own pace, things get a lot easier to process (at least in my experience). I admit it helps if you have some quality of life backup like family able to support you, but the matter is just making it through is probably one of the most important things. I hope things improve, Op. You're doing great.


shut the fuck up frogfag, your kind has no power here.


I bet you can't even bench your bodyweight, limpwrist

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Even knowing there's people in the same building as me makes it impossible to fully relax and be myself, and it kills any productivity. It feels so restricting.

How do you achieve complete isolation from humans?
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I'm in the same boat. I live in an apartment with three other people since I'm a college student, and sometimes I would rather piss in a cup and dump it later than risk bumping into anyone on the way to the shared bathroom.

When I go to supermarkets, the thought of how many people were required to make all the flooring/ceiling/racks/commodities makes me freak out. I feel like there's a million hands all reaching out at me. It doesn't help that I'm a Muricafag, so of course I feel scummy because the migrant people working the commercial bakeries and packaging machines and whatever are having an infinitesimally more difficult life just for me to be here pissing my pants at the thought of never being able to achieve real isolation.


I can relate. I've had to live with family in a cramped flat for the past 4+ years and it is actually so suffocating to the point that the only time I truly feel like I'm alone is during the middle of the night when everyone else is asleep.


They're filming with smartphones.


lmao just tell them to stop



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must have and ideal tech setup for neets and hiki.
to start things off, id have to say
-desktop PC
-backup HDD or SSD
-2nd monitor for laptop
-CRT for retro games and films
-2nd computer or 2nd laptop for use as media server
-comfortable chair or recliner
-steam deck
-decent speakers
-mechanical keyboard thatll last
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I cannot recommend getting a bigger portable battery pack enough. Since I stay without power regularly (voluntarily or not) it's awesome to have something with a 100 Watt USB-C port to charge whatever I need, be it my laptop, phones, lights, radios or even reviving rechargeable batteries.

You can get "palm"-sized 150Wh boxes with Li-ion cells and passive cooling for about $120 new. And yes, small "phone powerbanks" are overrated, they suck.


I can't afford this

Poorfag list

- Mid tier PC or laptop
- Comfy bed and heavy weighted blanket
- Headphones
- Recycled old PS2 controller
- Bookshelf for vidya, pirated CDs, books
- Trash can to dispose of waste and semen
- Plushies and blankets
- Hidden crawl space


explain this to me like im a retarded child please, what would you consider a mid-tier PC?
in that line of thought, itd be nice to have a satelite laptop just in case.


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got my new monitor, its so much better the old one.
im dicking with my t470 trying to figure out why the HDMI port wont register, its not a monitor or cable issue.


anything older gen and second hand with roughly decent enough specs to play a decade old game and watch videos online

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 No.254[Reply][Last 50 Posts]

How old are you?

ADMIN NOTE: This discussion is OK again since the change to Rule #1.
ADMIN NOTE: Fuck sake don't post that you're under 18 in here, rules are different than the Discord.
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im 34

I was a neet in my early 20s, got a job tanks to my parents, worked for a few years, lost my job over a year ago and just been sitting here

I feel like being a neet in your 20s was better / easier than it is now. I am going back to work since my money dried up but its so isolating as well.



man honestly proud of you dont mean to sound like a cocksucker or as though im shitting on neets but i just know that if a little fag like me started being hikki i would never stop lol, impressive fr


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21 physically, 71 mentally


>I miss being a NEET,
I think you're deluding yourself, I am glad you have become better.


Why are you here?

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I absolutely hate everyone here. You are all whiny babies who do mental gymnastics in order to justify your inaction. You need to grow up before it`s too late, BECAUSE THERE IS NO OTHER OPTION. Free yourselves from this desperation and torture and FIGHT against the cruel reality that surrounds you. BECAUSE. THERE. IS. NO. OTHER. OPTION!!!!!!!!!
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Unions are blood sucking parasites. Wherever there's a union, you don't don't really have a choice but to be part of it, and they have large membership fees. Then, they end up focusing on all kinds of completely irrelevant libtard shit instead of the one thing they're supposed to. Organizations aren't in a charitable mood after meeting their demands, so they don't give anything except what is demanded of them. It creates an antagonistic relationship between worker and employee.

That's why teachers, who spend 7+ hours a day in school, not only don't get free lunches, they don't get offered food to buy. A lot of suburb schools are in a random field too, and you're not supposed to leave the building in the middle of the day. So you really have no option other than to bring your food from home, which isn't how socialism is supposed to work. They don't even get free coffee. You have to bring your own. With unions, you get the worst of both socialism and corporatism, without any of the good points of either.


thank you, anon
a union recently emerged at my workplace, and i seriously considered joining, because i did not see any drawbacks
now i know better


a $20 amazon coupon has been sent to your inbox


Your living the life anon.


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andrew tate ass post lmao

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I've been unemployed for about 3 months now because of my worsening chronic illness. Even though it wasn't really my choice, I still feel like a loser and a drain on the world. I'm still studying a bit and working on my programming skills, but I feel so lonely and isolated no matter what I do.
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This is totally me, I feel so uninterested in just about everything, japanese porn is alright tho LOL


>took 30 minutes to write this reply. anyone else do the same thing?
Over the years it's increasingly taken me hours or days to make a single post because I'm afraid of there being something stupid in it that'd aggro angry replies towards me, or that I find it to be lacking substance or sincerity through poor vocabulary and therefore making me look stupid or shallow. With those two factors compounded by depression it locks me up, and for over a year now I can hardly speak to anyone without sounding like I'm mentally challenged or not even finish a single sentence and suffocate on my tongue.



Same here. I think it's because socializing is a skill that needs to be worked on and covid/social media fucked my entire ability to form relationships with people. I always feel like someone is going to fuck me over as soon as I trust them. Better to just be fake and don't tell anyone anything. I also feel that most conversations are filled with meaningless stupid shit just to fill the void. >>8008


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Something very similar to this just happen to me hours ago in a call with friends that ended up boring. Not trying to sound like the last cocacola of the desert, but trying to find someone interesting that don't talk about "normies" (ᵈᵒⁿᵗˡᶦᵏᵉᵗʰᵃᵗᵗᵉʳᵐ) topics or similar feels impossible, to the point that the conversation just die in minutes, with the feeling that you just fool yourself.

>even online. just cant hold a conversation for more than 10 messages. took 30 minutes to write this reply. anyone else do the same thing?

Same thing to me. At least it seem is more frecuent that i think.


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to be honest the best strategy I found for getting out of this kind of rut everyone’s talking about is getting horrifically obsessed with something. Chances are, you’ll find a community for that thing and be able to go from there without ‘normie’ topics interfering. I’ve got a friend who, if the conversation dies, will IMMEDIATELY start talking about VTubers and it’s honestly a relief because i get to hear about whatever mad shit they’re up to + no one’s asking about the weather or anything. Small talk like that is saved for being stuck in an elevator or a bus being late.

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