/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

>>10070
believe it or not it is actually possible to have a healthy relationship with societal beauty standards even if you are a hon.

i've been transitioning longer than this website has existed, i've seen everything.

you need to be doing it for you. sometimes i can keep up with skincare, sometimes i cant.

yea there are days i think im ugly (although i do pass relatively well, but because i stopped presenting high femme i sabotage my own passability because i actually prefer to look butch), but there are days where i think i am the sexiest thing on the planet.

those standards that are forced on us by people outside of us. i am not saying they dont have material consequences, but you can still choose how you navigate it, and i find generally speaking, it is healthier to do what you are able for yourself, hon or not.

i find there to be little reason to not do things for your appearance even if the results aren't exactly as you might want. if other people make it your problem, make it their problem.

then again im an ex hikki who stopped needing to post on this board over a decade ago so i dont have any reason to believe people on this board can instantly grow the spine necessary to actually stand up for themselves. but if you can manage it, it is worth doing.

>>9462
Applying for a job is deceptively easy, you "just" need to get lucky.
As for the technical process itself, you need to send then a CV(curiculum vitae) and a copy(you can get these certified at any post office if you're a Euro like me, I have no idea how Americans do it) of the diploma from your highest level of education. In practice that means either a highschool diploma or a university diploma. If you have them, send them copies of any certificates you have as well. It doesn't have to be related to the job, you're just showing off your competence.
As for your resume, just open a word document and write out your basic info plus some bullet points about yourself.
- Social security number
- healthcare provider
- driving level (whether you can only drive cars, or heavier vehicles as well)
- where you went to school and what you studied
- what languages can you speak and on what level
…. etc.
Keep it brief, keep it simple. You shouldn't need more than a page or two. Graphical flourishes are optional. Templates are dogshit.

As for where to look for jobs near you, well… you 'can' just walk in and ask. They can't stop you from doing that. Places near you might have a website listed on Google maps and you can figure out the owner/manager's e-mail or phone number from there if you don't want to embarrass yourself for little gain. Beyond that, you can try finding some job listing sites. That's about it though.

>>9467
Thanks. I ended up just applying to a college instead. Productive procrastination. I'm thinking of going for accounting, even though it sounds absolutely soul sucking. I probably just want some peace of mind knowing I tried before 30.

I haven't draw anything on 2 months but keep imagining thousands of stories on my burnout head.

>>9479
Same, I'm going to try to atleast pan out make a story into reality just one just so I can say I tried

>>9478
End of the year. I can say that nothing has changed, and I'm pretty comfy. Ended up not going to college. Instead I applied to a ton of jobs and got literally not a single reply back. But holy shit am I glad I'm not working right now. Actually, something did change: I started talking to a bunch of people. Most of them ghosted me, but the most interesting one stayed. Essentially, I gave up on life for the second time, and now I don't feel like shit anymore. Funny how that works.

i found some pleasure playing the piano, but idk, is just me, tomorrow who knows, maybe i will hate myself once again

>>9772

There really isn't anything that I enjoy, to be perfectly honest.

Move to the countryside and live off the land as a hermit. Be helpful to your neighbors and be happy. That's my dream ay least. Minimal interactions, just people to think of me and say "Oh yeah, that guy. He's alright."

>>9769
I turn thirty this May and I feel you. I don't know where the time went, it honestly did feel like I turned twenty yesterday and then I just woke up and now I am old.

inaction

Neetbux

>What causes people to become neets?
It's Dostoyevsky's Utopia. Everything is provided for, whether by family or state. If you fed a lion 3 meals a day it'd probably stop hunting too. But Humans don't just eat, they need mental and social stimulation. Social media and the internet trick your brain into thinking it has those things, so there's no desire to hunt for them outside.

>i mean no disrespect
There is nothing disrespectful about being curious, thank you for giving people something to post about.

>>9747
Hard to say in my case, its probably mental illness combined with lack of ambition and feeling like an outcast my entire life, I was always pretty much a ghost throughout my younger years in school, no one spoke to me and I didn't speak to anyone, I was basically a ghost and I kinda grew used to that, too used to it, now I'm a neet for 5 years straight at 23, no friends, no connections, no network, just kinda stuck like this, just looking at job searching websites gives me a mini panic attack, not that I can't do the work, its just the idea of having to go out and interact with people after so many years of being alone kinda terrifies me, which is weird to say since I don't think I have social anxiety, its just that it sounds so exhausting.

>>9759
ninja i lowkey did not know this i just thought it was funny to be retarded

>>9612
I miss my job.

>>9630
Since I wrote this one I got into another hotel and yet again I got fired again. I don't even want to try anymore I just have to be an hero and save the world from me

same here, I was always left out by people my age since 5th grade
now I can't even hold a conversation or small talk without making it awkward with my inability to socialize :(

>>9706
i feel the same, but it's compounded by the fact that all the social circles im in (fag indie rpgs, rock climbing, skating, mtg) attract either ubertards or the most intolerably morose people ever

Guess what boys?

That's right.

I'm getting out of my THIRD hotel. But this time on my own accord. Boss and coworkers didn't like me anyway and the older workers kept geting pissed off by me and I hated the place so I said I'm leaving, no one tried to stop me or change my mind. I think I'm retarded or something… Never work in hotels if you're ex-NEET/Hikki… I hate dealing with and serving people. I think I'm just destined to live as a parasitic life form, a curse to my family. My whole existence was a cruel joke by the demiurge to bring my parents financial and emotional ruin.

There is no escape for me. I'm doomed. AAAAAAAAAAA

I know how you feel OP but don't shoot yourself, there's an entire life out there for you and there's always better options than just giving up. I am autistic too and it's always hard because social connection doesn't come easy. I did eventually teach myself in the most autistic way possible and it does feel like I am heavily masking at times, but it also allowed me access to people I could truly be myself around. I also get how you feel about being a moid, I am uncomfortable with my masculine traits as well but that's why I am taking slow but steady progress to feel more comfortable in my own body. Giving up should never be an option.

>>10031
I agree that it's best to treat autism through social/psychological training.

On the other hand, regarding gender dysphoria, "Accepting yourself" and "becoming comfortable" is totally inane and underwhelming BS. I desperately need multiple facial surgeries to eliminate this disgusting masculinity from my face, so i can at least become a more androgynous male.

>>10031
seconded you can piss off the new (indian) owner's legion of cocksuckers if you stay alive

>>10033
Then I should let you >>10031 is me and I am in the legion of cocksuckers :^)
i dont think bal is indian though :^(

>>10034
tf u mean nigga bal/seagal is the most indian ass username ever, he probably plays enough pubg mobile to make a chinger blush(USER WAS BANNED FOR TRYING TOO HARD TO BE FUNNY)

holy shit I've been looking for a thread like this. I'm obsessing over the past. I worry that even if i become the president or something crazy like that, people will find out about my past and destroy all that I will have accomplished up to that point. This is why I have no ambition.

Don't really have it in me to write anything long-winded at the moment, but I struggle with daily things normal people find effortless and it sucks, especially at my age. I've only kind of learned to conceal it and play it cool, but this base incompetence follows me around no matter where I go it seems like.

Embarrassment is a huge set off for me. Spent a lot of my childhood as a non masking autistic and I ended up getting in a lot of shit situations because people could point at me and say ‘yep that’s definitely an autistic.

must’ve been in like fourth grade when I realised I had forgotten one day that it was own clothes day (uniformed school lel) and everyone else had come in their clothes while I was in my uniform. Ended up having a huge meltdown in the street because of my embarrassment, got stared at loads.
Own clothes days have set me off ever since, I even broke down in twelfth grade when I realised I had done it again and I had to go home because I was crying so much.

I still don’t know how to deal with it, since embarrassment kind of comes pre packaged with being autistic in such a society. Getting jeered at, stared at, wondering why you’re so different.

Embarrassments just never been my favorite feeling in the world

>>7530
Start ripping eyes out

>>7479
not that anon but i come back with an answer, you just feel immense guilt and loneliness when you are mentally or physically unwell

>>9883
thanks for the post. sounds horrible i hope you get better anon



i wish i could calm down, i get nerve wracking despair, stomach stiffness and pain thinking i have no future anymore, n going to want to hire me with my cv. crying everyday in the mornings and evenings with some energy left to focus on something else in the middle if i can. i dont even know if i can handle entry/blue collar work im so useless. even then im too antisocial to collaborate well with other people. every day is hell

You need friends, someone inside who can get you a job. Finding shit on your own is almost impossible and very little rewarding.

>>10004
This. Try to network and find people you can use as references. You might be able to sign up for volunteer work and that could be an extra boost that can help out a lot. Volunteer work looks good on resumes for two reasons: it shows you are active in the community (employers like this for obvious reasons related to company image) and it also helps connect you with a vast swath of resources. Alternatively, I don't know your particular situation, but take low paying menial jobs in the mean time to build yourself up. It sucks and will be hard but unforunately most employers look for experience more than anything else (to the point where even degrees can get thrown to the wayside). Getting employed, especially somewhere good, is a hard task but don't give up and believe in yourself. I believe in you.

dfd

>>10015
hi, thank you for the post. it helps

I work in IT basic admin work. Live free with parents. in the past 5 years I've had 5 jobs, only one of them around a year and a half, the rest were short and with small gaps in between. so I think my CV looks chaotic without even this huge gap.

I got certified in some cloud around this year, trying to present my current gap as some sort of upskilling. But no energy/willpower to do demo projects

Still I barely got one interview in the past half year so far.

I'm panicking alot all day ruminating all day, have this increasingly all encompassing sinking, very suffocating feeling I've dug myself a permanent hole basically. I could've and should've not quit jobs so often, I chose to quit my last place when I could've stayed put, cant believe how stupid I am lol. Amazing.


all I'm thinking of is the likely chance I'll remain stuck in a low-level job like some sort of divine punishment (I try not to be an asshole with others but its hard). it's terrifying like I'm losing my mind

Soon I will try find any work with help from the state, better than doing nothing like you said I just really hope it's not forever. It's very hard for me to accept the potential embarassment but there's nothing I can do about it better accept it
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>>9472
You don't, you show them the wall, picrel.
> How am I supposed to get experience for a job that requires the experience of that job to get?
Don't worry, sooner or later they will realize they won't have anybody qualified for the job since they haven't trained anybody. It will all burn in hell.

>>9472
If you're my bro, you lie and say you have it. There's a reason why he's now making quite a bit of money and I'm basically NEET again -_-

>how long have you been a NEET?
Two years currently, plus 2 years between 2020 and 2022.

>was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?
Mental health problems from childhood s/a, and generally not liking other people. I find it impossible to talk to or trust anyone, even if I know I should.

>what do you do all day?
Scroll through imageboards/social media, read a lot of manga and play a lot of games (even if they aren't good..)

>what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?
I have a friend who texts me from time to time, I think she just finds the way I live interesting. I don't get it, but there's probably some novelty in listening to me ramble

>how often do you get outside, if at all?
Every few months. My mom has health issues and doesn't like going to checkups alone.

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>>19
>how long have you been a NEET?
Long periods of on and off since I was 12
>was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?
Autism, social anxiety, not having friends, undiagnosed ADHD
>what do you do all day?
Browse Imageboards, watch other people live their life online, watch childish shows
>what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?
Online this is as close as it gets. Offline sometimes my mother's friend's daughter visits
>how often do you get outside, if at all?
Maybe every 2 weeks I will leave the house for an appointment or something
>do you live independently or with parents?
With parents, I'd die alone

how long have you been a NEET?
2 years

was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?
School was terriable, and life in general, no goal after HS and pretty much lost

what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?
None in real life and a bit online in some random form

how often do you get outside, if at all?
Rarely at all and only when I go shopping

do you live independently or with parents?
Parents but it's been hard lately