/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

Trans Mega Thread!

So, let's try something here.

Frequently a trans-related topic comes up in a thread here in /hikki/, and the thread will quickly get derailed by malicious comments or by the diversion in topic just taking over. There is clearly a lot of interest in discussing trans topics, as well as a lot of unwelcome interest in shutting them down. But they do tend to take over threads either way. So, while we figure out how to handle this from a moderation standpoint, I am going to make a trans discussion mega thread here to contain such conversations. This might end up being permanent. If you find that a thread makes you want to discuss a trans-related topic, make a post here instead.

Rules 6 and 7 are strictly enforced in this thread, and violations will result in longer bans. However, uncomfortable questions are also allowed within reason.

Also if a trans topic starts to derail a thread from now on we may delete those posts.

Also Sei is trans. So I might make some posts in here as well.

Update 11/04/2024: When the conversation in the trans thread veers into whether transness is even a thing that exists, that will be considered an attempt at derailment. This thread isn't for you. It is specifically a containment thread for people who want to talk about transness from the starting assumption that the topic itself and the kind of identity it discusses is valid. Please keep that in mind.

From now on, the >>>/rec/ board should generally be used for conversations about recovery from NEETism. This is not a hard rule but you are likely to have a better experience.

Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
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i got fired from my FUCKASS GAY ASS PIZZA DELIVERY JOB by my INDIAN boss for no fucking reason. he knew that i was a neet so i think his tiny shriveled shitskin mind kept creating confirmation biases about me whenever i did something even remotely wrong. i'm exhausted and tired and i feel like a failure, but i feel a lot better now that i'm free of responsibility. is that bad of me? i'm getting my alcohol serving license, going to apply for a role in a japanese restaurant in the city, but i don't even know if i'm ready to work. i feel like such a failure, and i don't even know what having a job would give me. it's not going to make me friends, or fix my agp, or even fulfill me all that much. life in australia is an endless cycle of suburban misery. i'm so miserable that i've sort of gone past depression and back into not caring, if that makes sense. genuinely what do i even do

I missed out on everything as a kid. I was always left alone by my peers which fucked me up of any social skills in the long run. I still have trouble holding a conversation. Have you guys had any trouble as a kid? This extreme isolation happened from 3rd to 8th grade which was enough to cripple me possibly my whole life. Or what is left of it anyway. Nearly 6 years of my life consisted of going home from school and back. Every day. Never talk with anyone, not even with family. Just me and my thoughts from a young age

I don't want to be like those other anons who just vent out shit here, so I'll ask the question, have you guys went through something similar that had a damaging effect on you? I still feel bits of loneliness from it.

pic unrelated FLCL just makes me feel like shit

Being forever alone is only tolerable if you are a cute girl. There's just something so ethereal about the scenery of a pretty loner woman, trudging around in the snow alone on a winter night, surrounded by bokeh Christmas light decorations. Unfortunately, I was born as a masculine looking moid, so I will shoot myself eventually.

In fact, I don't think moids should exist at all. Autistic moids like me literally serve no purpose.

The connection between my autism and my gender dysphoria is that as an autistic person, I cannot form any close bonds with others, so I can only be in the presence of beauty and femininity if I feminize myself. Imo the lifestyle of a woman is far superior for foreveralone autists, because socialization can be somewhat replaced by having a hobby in self-beautification and exploring a much wider range of personal aesthetic expression, with ornate dresses, skirts, makeup, ribbons, and accessories.

How do you deal with an embarrassing past?
Also, share your embarrassing past. None will beat mine.

Humiliation is hard to overcome because I feel like I'm a trash human being, I'm constantly afraid that people will see my past in the afterlife and see all the humiliating things that happened to me and cringe. I can't be friends with them because I feel unworthy of their friendship.

I was a special ed student at 5 years old, spent all my youth with disabled people, they would lock me up in a padded room with no light when I misbehaved anyhow or didn't listen to the teacher.
I went to normal school after that and the teacher refused to let me use the bathroom, I peed my pants in front of the whole class and was bullied for 3 years over it.
I was bullied in 3 different schools because I had been sheltered and spoiled by my parents who thought they had a "special son".
I was beaten by bullies, isolated, humiliated, and had no friends for years.
I became bitter and angry and joined the chans, which fucked me up even more with gore videos and whatnot.
My parents left me to rot as a NEET for years to take care of my sisters and never paid attention to me.
I know my dad and mom hate me secretly and prefer my two sisters who are neurotypical.
I was an autistic retard, my whole youth. I can't overcome that and become someone I'm not. I will always be a retard.

What causes people to become neets? Is it social anxiety, depression or something else i watched the anime welcome to the nhk and it got me interested into neets i myself am not one but i would like to learn i mean no disrespect i feel bad for neets i just wanna know for morbid curiosity

i'm nearing unemployment 2 years, i've tried to upskill with certificates, still barely get any interviews. is it hopeless? thank you

hi /n/, im curious about the NEETdom and wondering if you could answer some questions?

how long have you been a NEET?
was there a reason for you becoming a NEET?
what do you do all day?
what form of social interaction do you have, online and offline?
how often do you get outside, if at all?
do you live independently or with parents?

I will never have a job.

I will never move out of my parents' house.

I will never have sex.

I will never have a girlfriend.

I will never have any friends.