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News Post: I am Retiring.

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 No.4753[Reply]

My girlfriend is a NEET.

She has had a few jobs in the past, but she has always had to leave due to mental health problems. She has been struggling with mental health problems ever since her teenage years. Specifically, she has BPD and depression. I can relate with many of her feelings and experiences, because I also struggle with depression. One thing I should mention is that we have only talked online; I will be meeting her in person for the first time very soon. I seek other opinions and perspectives.

If you are in a situation similar to her, how would you want someone to support you?

If you have been in a similar situation, how did it go?
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 No.6481

>>4851


>online long distance relationships exist and those isolated in their rooms won't be any less hikki for that.

I mean there could also be a physical relationship of 2 hikkies in a room togheter that dont interact with soceity and other stuff like a single hikki whould and tick all the boxes if we where to count them as one person like not going outside for 6 months and not interacting with others (other than themselfes) . dont know if that counts as hikki or just NEET.

While very unlikely , its a possibility , the most likely way i can think of is hikki meeting hikki online and falling in love then deciding to move in the same room.

I mean hikki is ultimately just a label to describe existing behaviour at the end of the day so it doesnt really matter of someone is labeled a hikki or not because if they still suffer most if not all the symptoms (for example didnt leave the room for 10 months except one time 5 months ago when they needed to buy milk from the store may not be techically hikki because they left the room but still suffer the acute social withdrawl and all that stuff).

 No.6488

>>6481
>if we where to count them as one person

 No.6489

>>6488
My ideea was that its a very socially recluse couple , as in:

-spending most of the day and nearly every day confined to home,

-marked and persistent avoidance of social situations, and social relationships, (except for the GF/BF)

-social withdrawal symptoms causing significant functional impairment,

-duration of at least six months, and
no apparent physical or mental etiology to account for the social withdrawal symptoms.

 No.6497

>>4784
If somebody wanted to be a normie they could do it on heyuri or 7chan
I'm glad you think you're that important

 No.8111

I see why this place has cleared out over the late 2010s. Anyway OP did you meet that girl?


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 No.7588[Reply]

I absolutely hate everyone here. You are all whiny babies who do mental gymnastics in order to justify your inaction. You need to grow up before it`s too late, BECAUSE THERE IS NO OTHER OPTION. Free yourselves from this desperation and torture and FIGHT against the cruel reality that surrounds you. BECAUSE. THERE. IS. NO. OTHER. OPTION!!!!!!!!!
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 No.8007

>>7615
Your living the life anon.

 No.8014

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andrew tate ass post lmao

 No.8105

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>>7993
>>7788
It's too late to be having your lolbert Pinochet dickrider phase at your age.

 No.8107

Totally relatable. I hate you OP also, because you're a faggot who doesn't do shit just as anyone else. I hate myself also. My hate is universal and is applied to every entity with the only exception of Providence. I will not allow myself to find fault with Providence. Everything else is subject to my hate. Fuck off.

 No.8108

>don't study
>feel like shit

>study
>feel like shit because I put in so much effort and still I'll never fit in


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 No.7863[Reply]

how the fuck do i talk to ppl irl (specifically at school)
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 No.8088

>>8085
Introverted loser who likes to be inside all day and is into "nerd stuff" and memes. Everybody can be special and in the club!

 No.8089

>>8088
what did it ever mean before that? seems like its more of the same, minus twitter memes and mainstream appeal… (failed normalfags?) maybe hikkis who are hikkis post 2020 are fake hikkis and pre-2020 hikkis are genuine approved hikkis that are worth a lot to collectors on ebay

 No.8090

>>8089
NEETs were people without jobs, school, and training for jobs. Hikkis are shut-ins who seldom leave their house or room.

 No.8091

>>8090
According to Saito's book on Hikikiomori, it almost always starts with school refusal in the teenage years. I agree on the distinction. I think NEET should be an economic term to distinguish people who don't participate in society much, and Hikikiomori is more of a mental issue preventing someone from leaving their house/room, which can have many causes.

>>7863
I hope you don't drop out. It only gets harder and harder to recover the longer you're away from others. Good luck

 No.8103

>>8091
I don't actually have any problem leaving my house/room, I just don't have any friends or money to do anything.


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 No.8094[Reply]

I lately noticed how little i leave room and how uncomfortable i get around people. is getting scary how much i despise the outside world. I feel trapped
outside but free at my room.

 No.8096

>I lately noticed how little i leave room
on average how long do you go?
>getting scary how much i despise the outside world
if its causing you great distress, id suggest talking to a therapist

 No.8099

glad to hear you feel free somewhere

 No.8100

>>8099 it isn't the same for you ?

 No.8102

>>8100
no it is, but i know some people that feel utterly trapped as hikkis


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 No.6422[Reply][Last 50 Posts]

I do not mean on this site but in general where are all the losers hanging out online now because all the imageboards are very slow and any of the bigger platforms are suffocating by censoring controversial opinions driving discussion of those topics away yet where is everyone?

ver the past 5 years it is like nearly every hikikomori realized that online communities for losers were not worth the drama or they killed themselves.
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 No.7970

>>7848
I really apreciate you putting your lessons here, i'm not one to post a lot either, and when i do all i can feel is doubt, i fear what people might think of me, that's because i've always wanted to be seen as smart and the cool guy lol. i'm trying to get into the state of mind of not caring about it, and only minding my own, it's been a bit tough but every day i feel more and more, even if for a few hours, that i'm a real person. i hate most social media sites, popular things just feel like complete garbage to me, and i just don't want to feel bad about it anymore. im just replying because i wouldn't want a post like yours to be left out in the wind, you've poured your heart into it i can really tell, thanks again i wish you the best.

 No.8065

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People were posting about this in 2021? Lol, things have only gotten worse in 2024. I know how lame multi-replying is but this is the only thread I have enjoyed reading through in sometime. Please be patient and understanding!
>>6735
You can also use AI to further develop and streamline your interests and hobbies. I find it a great deal of fun just coming up with ways to do so. I hope you're okay.
>>6604
>>6605
We've moved to:
https://wapchan.org/tower/
Be warned, this is, by far, the deadest iteration of magicchan yet.
>>7109
No, I really don't think so. The worst are usually constantly embarassing themselves online while stalked by scum from kiwifarms, already dead, or downloading CP/snuff from somewhere.
>>7871
I'm not 30 yet, but yes, the older guys generally have a more refined stylometry. You almost never see them now compared to years ago.
>>7848
>I find peace in working on myself instead of trying to form connections with random people on a global scale
>maybe being a loser for too long helps you to finally work on yourself and leave behind some parts, hence why neets in online spaces are disappearing.
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 No.8073

I'd love to try visiting any of the sites recommended itt but I don't use a vpn. it felt like lainchan definitely tracked users and logged all sorts of information, or that somehow other users had more access to that kind of information than the average halfchanner ever cared to know, or just couldn't track too easily because of the larger userbase. with smaller sites you risk comfy for "comfy" I think, don't you? is what I'm trying to say. Am I being too paranoid?

 No.8075

>>8073
Not at all. Severeal years ago, I got the wizardchan mods platinum mad because I often called them out on their blatant bullshit. I definitely had a few stalk my presence with a grudge on the site until I left for good.
I'm not active anywhere to warrant such measures but If I was, I definitely would leave much less of a digital footprint.

 No.8083

>>6852
Anyone know who this guy was talking about? I really wanna read those essays…


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 No.8064[Reply]

Finding other neets to relate to feels impossible. On discord all I seem to find is normies wanting to “retire” it should be a separate distinction from “neet” I can’t fully explain this it’s hard to articulate do normies annoy you taking over neet spaces then turning it into another echo chamber of rules you have to follow socially? Even though they want to remove themselves from the rat race.
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 No.8068

https://plausiblydeniable.com/five-geek-social-fallacies/

 No.8069

Nothing annoys me more than seeing normies take the label of neet/hikki as a stand-in for their lack of any discernable inner-substance – they think being a hikikomori is cute and wear it as means of an identity, to seem special as it were. It's demeaning when it happens since – as you've pointed out – it becomes impossible to connect with others in any meaningful way. The experience and subsequent hardships of the condition is lost to the vanity of the crayon-eating masses.

 No.8070

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>>8069

like autism, methinks

everybody and their mother just sticks it in their bio to make up for their dreary lack of personality

which, speaking as a full blown retard, really pisses me off

 No.8072

>>8064
"on discord", sorry but genuinely what does this mean? can you search for random people to talk to through tags or something now? how is it that you're running into supposedly so many normies like this that describe themselves like this, I'd want to make actual neet friends too because normalfags are always thinking it's some psychopathic thing to not leave the house but I'm also too afraid to search on my own and haven't tried anything yet, what is it that you're doing so far?

 No.8081

Having some neet friends would be nice


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 No.8011[Reply]

bruh it all sucks ass i had a nervous breakdown because i couldnt find the fucking port for the fan controller on my new computer. im so fucking stressed all the time for no reason, my folks are really nice and all and im fine physically but i just for the life of me cannot be contented. every time i

get something cool or new or if i bake something or stuf like goddamnit i just cant help but worry that im going to break it or do it wrong or make it grimy or idk. like im a privileged mid class white kid but its genuinely crazy how anxious im getting like to the point of tears over shit that most people dont even have the privilege of owning jesus fuck help
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 No.8032

>>8012
>im genuinely just not a very pleasant person
Yeah, I can see that.

 No.8036

>>8011
in my experience, spending MORE time by myself once highschool was over actually did wonders for anything I had going on somehow. I finally had the time to actually do what I wanted without having to be as drained and depressed all the time from being forced to do well in something I didn't personally see any benefit from. you just have to keep going, honestly. I actually talk to my own family now, I was extremely anti-social before due to the same sort of anxiety and mental anguish. It's still there but after some years I can somehow just do more things I couldn't now, more often, just more chilled out overall. I hope things get better for you naturally over time too, anon. try to just enjoy the ride

 No.8037

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>>8036
Can vouch. Getting out of mandatory schooling was probably the best thing to happen to me. As soon as you're allowed to take things at your own pace, things get a lot easier to process (at least in my experience). I admit it helps if you have some quality of life backup like family able to support you, but the matter is just making it through is probably one of the most important things. I hope things improve, Op. You're doing great.

 No.8045

>>8044
shut the fuck up frogfag, your kind has no power here.

 No.8046

>>8045
I bet you can't even bench your bodyweight, limpwrist


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 No.7029[Reply]

Even knowing there's people in the same building as me makes it impossible to fully relax and be myself, and it kills any productivity. It feels so restricting.

How do you achieve complete isolation from humans?
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 No.7678

I'm in the same boat. I live in an apartment with three other people since I'm a college student, and sometimes I would rather piss in a cup and dump it later than risk bumping into anyone on the way to the shared bathroom.

When I go to supermarkets, the thought of how many people were required to make all the flooring/ceiling/racks/commodities makes me freak out. I feel like there's a million hands all reaching out at me. It doesn't help that I'm a Muricafag, so of course I feel scummy because the migrant people working the commercial bakeries and packaging machines and whatever are having an infinitesimally more difficult life just for me to be here pissing my pants at the thought of never being able to achieve real isolation.

 No.7679

I can relate. I've had to live with family in a cramped flat for the past 4+ years and it is actually so suffocating to the point that the only time I truly feel like I'm alone is during the middle of the night when everyone else is asleep.

 No.7687

>>7052
They're filming with smartphones.

 No.7740

>>7687
lmao just tell them to stop

 No.8039

opiates


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 No.7895[Reply]

I've been unemployed for about 3 months now because of my worsening chronic illness. Even though it wasn't really my choice, I still feel like a loser and a drain on the world. I'm still studying a bit and working on my programming skills, but I feel so lonely and isolated no matter what I do.
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 No.8006

>>8005

This is totally me, I feel so uninterested in just about everything, japanese porn is alright tho LOL

 No.8008

>>7977
>took 30 minutes to write this reply. anyone else do the same thing?
Over the years it's increasingly taken me hours or days to make a single post because I'm afraid of there being something stupid in it that'd aggro angry replies towards me, or that I find it to be lacking substance or sincerity through poor vocabulary and therefore making me look stupid or shallow. With those two factors compounded by depression it locks me up, and for over a year now I can hardly speak to anyone without sounding like I'm mentally challenged or not even finish a single sentence and suffocate on my tongue.

 No.8009

>>8008

Same here. I think it's because socializing is a skill that needs to be worked on and covid/social media fucked my entire ability to form relationships with people. I always feel like someone is going to fuck me over as soon as I trust them. Better to just be fake and don't tell anyone anything. I also feel that most conversations are filled with meaningless stupid shit just to fill the void. >>8008

 No.8010

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>>8005

Something very similar to this just happen to me hours ago in a call with friends that ended up boring. Not trying to sound like the last cocacola of the desert, but trying to find someone interesting that don't talk about "normies" (ᵈᵒⁿᵗˡᶦᵏᵉᵗʰᵃᵗᵗᵉʳᵐ) topics or similar feels impossible, to the point that the conversation just die in minutes, with the feeling that you just fool yourself.


>>7977
>even online. just cant hold a conversation for more than 10 messages. took 30 minutes to write this reply. anyone else do the same thing?


Same thing to me. At least it seem is more frecuent that i think.

 No.8013

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to be honest the best strategy I found for getting out of this kind of rut everyone’s talking about is getting horrifically obsessed with something. Chances are, you’ll find a community for that thing and be able to go from there without ‘normie’ topics interfering. I’ve got a friend who, if the conversation dies, will IMMEDIATELY start talking about VTubers and it’s honestly a relief because i get to hear about whatever mad shit they’re up to + no one’s asking about the weather or anything. Small talk like that is saved for being stuck in an elevator or a bus being late.


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 No.7999[Reply]

I'm a good kid, I'm a real good kid, but this one bad break fucking RUINED ME. Now I can't do shit, everything's shit, I AM SHIT. I can't write a paper to save my life. But I want to! I want to prove that I can! Let me do anything else please!

I have been cleaning my house, I've done the dishes everyday, done my laundry, done all this goody good nice stuff that I would usually ignore, plodding around looking for ANYTHING to do. Anything but that god-forsaken paper, cause I just can't do it. I feel like it's impossible, and each moment I'm just inching towards failing. I feel like this is unfair? How could this happen to me? IM A GOOD KID IM TELLING YOU. Stupid Friday, stupid weekend, stupid paper, I've tried to stay up on Sunday and Monday to do this, and I just gave up around 5 AM both times. I woke up today on Tuesday at 1 PM, And I still haven't done that paper. I know I'm turning back to how I was before, and I can't fight it, I'm too scared to go back, I wanna stay where it's safe, even though it hurts me in a way I don't understand. I can't be strong anymore.

I really messed up real bad this time. So someone just fucking AAIHUUGGHHH tell me the magic words, how can I fix myself before I turn back into something I don't like. I'm sorry.

 No.8000

It's all gone. I didn't save it. And now it's gone. It doesn't even feel that unfair, I just don't want to go back.

 No.8001

>>7999
You accept that you have fucked up and think about what needs to change for you not to fuck up but prosper instead. There is not a single silver bullet other than "Get supportive friends."

 No.8002

>>8001
It's Valentine's Day and I'm worried out of my mind, I don't know how bad the repercussions are gonna be. But honestly last night, I just accepted it, and I slept like a baby. It's nice having a somewhat clear mind and being on somewhat solid ground. I've been running around trying to get all these things done, and it just hurting me.

I know it's selfish but I gotta put myself first. Whatever happens happens, Happy Valentine's mates <3

 No.8003

take it a step at a time and stop being gay, one paper isn't gonna be the end of it


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