/rec/ - Ex-NEET / Recovery

God bless NEET friend. Look forward to your updates.

Everything about working at walmart sounds scary as fuck, good job setting out to change things though anon. It's doubly impressive that you're sorting out insurance stuff in hopes of finding treatment, I'm too inbetween things right now to know where to start. I've personally been struggling for the past year to at least stay outside/stay more socialized after around 8 years of NEETdom so I wish you the best, if anything because we've done the same amount of time. Getting a job and getting back into things is honestly the hardest part of it if you have a certain mindset though I think, you sound like you'll be okay. Don't be too hard on yourself if you get overwhelmed at all, I know I was after just a week because of amount of change I leapt into but it's worth it to just keep going.

OP here. Thanks for the encouragement. I worked my first real day at the new job yesterday.

I think I'm at least a little bit lucky, cuz it seems like I have a good team, and even the manager is pretty chill. Still disorganized as fuck though, it's Walmart. From what I read on r/walmart others aren't so lucky in that way.

The downside is this is a busy store, I'm working on the busiest days, and the evening shift which brings in all the weirdos. I already had a few, one guy paid for a car battery in ones. But at the same time, it's nice not to wake up to an alarm every morning. I also live in a place with a lot of immigration from literally everywhere, which wouldn't be a problem, except sometimes it's hard to communicate with customers if there's a problem. I don't even recognize half of the languages I heard.

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>Everything about working at walmart sounds scary as fuck

Yeah, black friday and the holidays are gonna be here before I know it. We'll see how I really do come then.

>It's doubly impressive that you're sorting out insurance stuff in hopes of finding treatment

In my state we're legally required to have insurance, so I have to sign up for medicaid. I've been on it more or less since the beginning. They want me to renew this year I think because my old ID expired. One of my biggest fears is neglecting or messing up legal paperwork and having it fester for years only to get some big fine or jail time way later or some bullshit. maybe that's just my monkey brain scaring me though, lol.

Anyway, I don't know how successful I'll be in seeking treatment, mental health coverage on my insurance seems pretty limited. I think I have a little more direction now so maybe I can make it work, but time will tell.

>Getting a job and getting back into things is honestly the hardest part of it if you have a certain mindset though I think

Absolutely true, the mindset is the biggest problem most of us face as NEETs. I'm thinking about time a little differently. I sacrifice 3-4 days a week and have 3-4 off days, plus a grace period of a few hours before I go to work. It's putting a lot more pressure on me to invest into things I actually care about like art and music. and while it's a little too soon to tell, I think it's working. I put about as much work into it in my grace period before work that I would do for an entire day before.

>Don't be too hard on yourself if you get overwhelmed at all, I know I was after just a week because of amount of change I leapt into but it's worth it to just keep going.

Thanks, and I wish you the best too anon.

How did you pass the interview OP? I've had a couple interviews for retail positions in the pass but always spilled the spaghetti and didn't get them.

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don't feel bad about the languages thing, a lot of people don't know more than their first unless they cared in school, especially americans. the key during those times is to be patient and speak slowly, not necessarily loudly. you can also try to complete sentences for foreigners in english and they'll usually nod excitedly at you if you get it right. obviously you could run into an impatient asshole, but no matter what corporate tells you you're still the one who's there to help in that moment or not, and that customer is practically indebted to you. don't be afraid to pass them along to someone else if you just aren't feeling it.

>>389

I think body language makes a difference. For a lot of NEETs with mental health issues they might accidentally give off "school shooter" vibes. I have issues, but it's not autism which can affect body language, it's probably OCD. My body language communicates more like an awkward nervous idiot, i'm constantly checking and trying to reassure myself and overthinking every little shift in tone and expression in the person i'm talking to. I also have facial tics which I don't see people mention or react too much thankfully. But, I maintain good eye contact, I have a sense of when to nod, agree, interject, etc. You don't need to be a savant of social intuition, i'm sure as hell not, but getting the basics down can go a long way. If you creep the interviewer out that's probably going to be a deal breaker, but being awkward isn't, it's an entry level job. be a little more aware of your body language is the best advice i can offer you.

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Yeah, thanks. I grew up here so I'm familiar with talking to people who don't have the best english. I already had to abort one guy's order cuz I couldn't understand what he wanted, his card wasn't working and he just stared at me confused when I said anything.

*hands me item and two receipts* "Are you returning?" "yesyesyesyesyes"

"Okay, you gotta go to customer service for that, I can't help you." *stares blankly* "Customer service?" "nononono" *hands me a gift card and points to receipt saying it has $50*

"Okay, you're buying then?" "yesyesyesyesyes"

I scan the items and put the gift card in, register says card is invalid "This card is invalid, you can go to customer service to sort it out if you want" *stares blankly for a solid minute*

"The card is invalid, customer service, they can help you" He leaves and says he'll come back, I suspend the order and work on the next guy.

I start ringing up the next guy with groceries. As I finish the groceries he finally guy comes back.

He comes back and says the card should be fine, nothing has changed. "Okay, but you gotta go back in line" *stares blankly* "Back in line"

"nonono i'm buying this" (points to groceries) The groceries are his apparently. "Oh this is yours? Okay, sorry." He pays with a credit card and the groceries go through.

Then, I try to do the other order again and it's the same story as before. "The card is invalid, I don't know what to tell you" *stares blankly*

As he stares at me a coworker comes up to me saying she'll replace me and I can go on my 15 minute break. I decide to just abort the order.

"I'm going to abort this order, I don't know what else to do." "i'll be back" He says, menacingly. So I abort and my coworker takes over, thankfully my break saved me and I didn't see him after that since I took another register.

On one hand it's annoying, and I was frustrated in the moment, but on another he probably feels the same way. Usually when someone doesn't speak any english they have someone with them that is fluent, but he seemed to be alone. I would have gotten help if I didn't go on break. Maybe I wasn't doing the card correctly. Gift cards are really finicky, sometimes one way works, sometimes another, etc. It's annoying because different cards need to be put in in different ways.

Whatever, it is what it is. I talk too much.

Congratulations, op. 8-year neet year as well, I'm not exactly looking or a job but I'm a hiki as well for 7 years who's planning to move out and possibly readjust myself for the real world.

That's good you're seeking treatment for your undiagnosed problems, I have a feeling I too have thing undiagnosed but still am a little wary of going to get them diagnosed. Maybe I'm a bit afraid of what I'll find out about myself.

sharpening up my communication skills is also a future goal of mine and would like to be able to small talk like everybody else face-to-face. Best of luck